Pandemic Passions

Submitted by ub on Thu, 03/19/2020 - 09:48

Stay calm and review the situation strategically, using verifiable facts, not hyperbole. We can’t let fear cripple our world economy and push humanity over the brink.

The COVID-19 global pandemic may temporarily turn out to be the ultimate stress test for each and every living and loving couple on earth. While the Corona novel virus spares children, it now appears to pose a real threat to middle-aged and older men.

International published reports indicate that although men and women have been infected in equal numbers, researchers say, the death rate among men is nearly double - 2.8 percent, compared with 1.7 percent among women. The reason is that women mount stronger immune responses to infection than the weaker sex.

One of the causes of making wrong decisions is that we frequently look at ourselves through the eyes of others because we want their approval to make us feel good. But in fact, what we really need first is self-approval to help us feel fabulous.

Is it OK to have sex with our partner? According to published reports, the answer is NO.

No. Unless you’ve just been tested and waited five days. No kissing. It’s just too much of a risk that one of you might be infected. Also, remember that older people are especially in danger.

Having sex is a choice and we need to decide ethically if we wish to put our partner, or multiple people at risk to satisfy ourselves.

Some men like to act like they are invincible machos, Case in point is the key figure in Nobel prize-winning author Gabriel García Márquez masterpeice "El Amor en Los Tiempos del Cólera" or Love in the Time of Cholera.

Or even this more recent foreign film favorite - Sex and Death 101

The main points to keep in mind are that no one has our DNA. We are unique individuals and therefore a sum total of all our life experiences. We’re complex sexual human beings and nobody knows what goes on in our bodies, our hearts, or minds. There are many ways of exploring self-truths. Here is some help to get us started.

The younger we are the more likely we’ll have lots of concerns, self-doubts, and stress. It takes time to get to know ourselves. We have to live and experience things. The problem is well-meaning friends and even family often project values and perceptions on us. This traps our own thoughts making it difficult to really discover ourselves.

Of course in this new decade and we’re supposed to be more enlightened. But most men are not taught to engage in self-reflection, not even to honor feelings and emotions. Guys often limit their discussion to sports and other non-personal topics. It’s no wonder men have more trouble communicating with the fairer sex.

I know that older men want younger women. Those who are young at heart but shy try social media as a bold way to meet and then greet. Some do not make it a requirement to be connected to privately message the person whose image you like. Then if we receive a positive response the dialog follows.

Watch the major motion picture “You’ve Got Mail” - It’s a great diversion and looks at the world of online dating in the early days.
Here's a clip

Finally, when you decide it is the best time, and before sex, try hard to find a nice way to say back off and give you some safe space.