Have you ever felt the energy in a room instantly darken and the stench overpower the place when a fat old angry guy enters?
While watching the double D Punk “deny and delay” we all carry unique, energetic vibes that others around us can sense. Our vibes can be high or low, so some people’s presence lifts our energy while others drain it.
As the energetic vibes of others affect our well-being, we should wisely choose who we support.
If someone displays the following 10 behaviors, they are likely an energy drainer who you should avoid.
One of the first behaviors you’ll notice about this draining person is their selfishness.
They only talk about themselves, never asking about you or showing interest in your life.
This is because draining people, or energy vampires as they are commonly known, latch onto anyone who will listen to them.
So, as soon as you meet an energy vampire, they will tell you all about their life and problems.
The worst mistake you can make here is acting interested.
If the energy vampire sees that you will let them dominate the conversation, they will continue to ‘feed’ off you, zapping all your energy in the process.
But it’s worth pointing out that draining people aren’t talking about themselves to brag or show off as some types of narcissists do.
He talks about his problems, which link to the following behavior… I bet we can all think of a politician who loves to complain.
No matter how beautiful the weather is, how good their life is, and how many blessings they have, they ALWAYS find something to moan about.
Often, what they complain about are minor things – things you don’t consider bad or unacceptable.
However, the more time you spend with this person, the more things you will find to complain about, too. This is one of the biggest dangers of energy vampires – they drag us down to their level.
There are many reasons why people complain so much.
According to Dutch psychoanalyst Manfred F.R. Kets de Vries, for some people, it is a habit learned from family members.
Growing up, they might have found that complaining helped to establish rapport with those around them. Over time, this altered the neural pathways in their brain, becoming a personality trait that they are unaware of.
So when a draining person tells you about their problems, it is not because they are seeking advice.
If you try to offer help in any way, you will notice how they instantly dismiss it, which brings me to the next typical behavior.
They talk about their problems, which links to the following behavior…
I bet we can all think of a candidate who loves to complain.
No matter how beautiful the weather is, how good their life is, and how many blessings they have, they ALWAYS find something to moan about.
Often, what they complain about are minor things – things you don’t consider bad or unacceptable.
However, the more time you spend with this person, the more things you will find to complain about, too. This is one of the biggest dangers of energy vampires – they drag us down to their level.
There are many reasons why people complain so much.
According to Dutch psychoanalyst Manfred F.R. Kets de Vries, for some people, it is a habit learned from family members.
Growing up, they might have found that complaining helped to establish rapport with those around them. Over time, this altered the neural pathways in their brain, becoming a personality trait that they are unaware of.
So when a draining person tells you about their problems, it is not because they are seeking advice.
If you try to offer help in any way, you will notice how they instantly dismiss it, which brings me to the next typical behavior.
This is not down to bad luck, but rather a case of attracting what they desire.
Energy vampires get bored quickly, so if things are too peaceful, they seek drama.
This becomes an addiction, as being involved in drama makes them feel alive and important.
So, they create drama by starting unnecessary arguments with people. And they smoothly slot themself right into the middle of conflicts between other people.
People who love drama also tend to have a series of bad relationships.
If things are going well with someone, they will unconsciously self-sabotage it to create drama.
It’s easy to spot this type of person – just tell them some ‘gossip’ and watch their eyes light up!
One thing you will notice about an emotionally draining and greedy person is that they are never at fault. They play the victim.
This is because they have a victim mentality, so get the hell away from him because he also stinks and BO is contagious.