Happy Holidays

Submitted by ub on Sat, 11/12/2022 - 02:17

Dear family- After missing the last two holiday seasons due to the pandemic, we were hoping to be among the 55 million Americans traveling to celebrate with family for the holidays.

However, due to circumstances beyond our control, we are sorry to say we’re staying home once again. It doesn’t mean that we don’t want to be there with you. We are thinking about you and missing all of you. Love always and forever. 
 

KP Duty for some is more desirable than for others, and it all comes down to the luck of the draw, but remember Kindness Prevails.

Don’t they know it’s Christmas? The #CEO tone-deaf, off-key, and out of tune apologizing chorus for laying off workers. Amazon plans to lay off 10,000 employees - NYT http://reut.rs/3TzdIIP  DITTO for #Twitter and #Facebook while Crypto is crashing.

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There’s no need to know precisely where our dream destination will eventually take us if we are willing to begin and expand our minds along the long and winding road. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JFNaOm6U5n8

Takeaways: RSB

Researched three-step process that gets you out of your head - and into the here and now, actually living life and also enjoying it.

Stop rushing around doing a million things at once and actually still get it all done - without feeling exhausted & slightly overwhelmed at the end of the day. https://lifestyle.doseofnews.com/

Be mindful and see how powerful, productive, and full of pleasure you can feel interacting with folks in your world.

The NYC Christmas Tree is here to bring #USA and The World Christmas 🎄 Cheer. https://www.rockefellercenter.com/

From now on consider what to share. Actively consider how your social media presence affects others. This will inspire you to make more thoughtful posts. We are in a very angry space and no one should be allowed to push us over the edge.

Stop the political infighting. Don’t share content that mocks someone else or a handicapped individual, another race, culture, or member of a different community.

Lead by example. Your social influence is strongest when showing others how to act, rather than telling them.

Break old patterns. It takes just one person acting differently to reduce peer pressure or online hostility.

Build a positive reputation. Being kind will make people more likely to want to communicate with you and follow you.

Think about whose content you consume. If someone you follow posts or shares content that is aggressive and not constructive, this could make your social media feed a less kind place.

Ignore accounts that abuse others on social media. Reporting abusive accounts on social media can pressurize the platform into reviewing the account or removing the offensive content.

A Guide To Staying Calm During Family Holidays https://www.bustle.com/wellness/how-to-stay-calm-during-holidays-family

Choose conscious connections. Even small authentic acts of kindness can create strong social bonds over time.

You get what you give back. The Love you take is equal to the love you make. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=12R4FzIhdoQ

Behaving cordially towards others will encourage them to respond in kindness. Treat others the way you wish to be treated. https://lifestyle.doseofnews.com/

By finding small ways to practice gratitude, we'll allow ourselves to let go of toxic emotions and replace those with positive thoughts. We can practice gratitude each day by thinking of at least nine things we're grateful for. Try it... you'll like it.

Focus on the energy we're emitting

You can't expect to attract good energy if you're giving off loads of negative energy. Think about the kind of vibes others get when they spend time with you. Do you exude a sense of peace, calm, and happiness? Or are you gloomy and doomed?

Negative energy is bound to impact your relationships. It may be subtle, but the attitude you approach others with will generally be reflected back at you. What kind of impression do you make on people?

If you naturally seem to draw others in and people seek out your company, chances are you're doing a good job of emitting positive energy. If people avoid you and sidestep your assistance, you're stuck at a lower, negative, vibration. Focus your energy on the positive.

Change the tone of our thoughts

Negative thinking can be hard to stop. It's easy to allow yourself to slip into pessimism or take on an air of indifference. But if you want to attract good things, you must let the positive guide you, not the negative. As the Dalai Lama says, "See the positive side, the potential, and make an effort." Actively work to change the tone of your thoughts from negative to positive.

For instance, you can reframe the thought "I am having a hard time adjusting to this new situation" to "I know I will face challenges with this new situation, but I am capable of coming up with solutions to problems and I know I will adjust to these changes." Don't allow yourself to wallow in pessimistic ruminations. Stop looking for bad news or exaggerating the negative. Replace negative thoughts with positive but realistic statements that inspire you to take action.

Embrace positive influences

Negative vibes can disrupt your sense of well-being and drain you of happy feelings and contentedness. These negative influences can be people, places, or things that have an unfavorable sway over your life. It may be that there are people in your life who are toxic to your overall happiness. Perhaps their constant criticisms bring you down, or you find yourself picking up their bad habits.

Cut off these negative influences and begin creating the life you want to live. Look for the negative influences in your life. You may be able to completely avoid or remove some of them, which is a surefire way of eliminating that influence. For those that are a permanent fixture, work to limit your exposure to them and mentally fortify yourself before you encounter them.

Expand our circle

Just as you try to limit your negative influences, make sure you start spending time with positive ones. Surround yourself with positive, successful go-getters who are supportive and caring. Keep company with those who bring positive energy with them, and make sure you nurture and protect those relationships.

Bring your own good energy into your circle and help create a positive synergy that will permeate the group. Look for people who will tell you the truth, and will always be honest with you, but never out of spite or with a desire to bring you down.

Practice compassion and kindness

Small acts of kindness can have profound impacts on both the giver and the receiver. Research shows that people who are kind and compassionate to others are more satisfied with their lives, enjoy better physical and mental health, and have stronger relationships. Giving to others creates a positive feedback loop -- the more you give, the more good feelings you receive in return.

The people who benefit from kindness and compassion are more likely to display these traits themselves. There are many easy ways of showing kindness, such as writing a positive message on a sticky note and leaving it for someone to find, buying a cup of coffee for the person behind you in line, or simply taking a moment to smile as you pass strangers. All of this fuels happiness and sends heaps of positive energy your way.

Cultivate gratitude

Find time each day to think about the things you're grateful for. By finding small ways to practice gratitude, you'll allow yourself to let go of toxic emotions and replace those with positive thoughts. You can practice gratitude each morning by thinking of 5 things you're grateful for. Then think of at least one person you're grateful to have in your life.

You can also try keeping a gratitude journal, where you can quickly jot down a list of little joys and things that give you a sense of happiness and contentment. Remind yourself of all the bad you have been through. When you see how far you've come and all of the difficult storms you have weathered, it will make you more appreciative of what you have in your life now.

Find our inner strength

Insecurity, self-doubt, and fear are good-energy killers. Those negative feelings rob you of confidence and undermine your ability to bounce back from adversity. But you have developed resilience by overcoming difficult situations -- this is your inner strength.

Stop listening to your critical inner thoughts. These diminish your feelings of worth and hamper your potential. Work to empower yourself by channeling your inner superhero. Recognize that you are strong and capable, equipped to handle whatever is thrown your way.

Align our current self with our future self

Things you spend time, energy, and money on will impact you far beyond today. All of these choices will shape your future self. If you want to have positive energy flowing through you, you need to start making decisions that will steer you to become the kind of person you want to be, with the job and relationships you want to have. Ask yourself these questions:

Now imagine what this life you want feels like. Who are you in this ideal future? What are you doing? Start to align your current self with the future self you want to become. As you start taking steps toward creating the reality you wish for, you'll feel motivated to take control of more parts of your life. The more actions you take toward the positive, the more you create your own favorable reality.

Act in good faith

There is generally an assumption that parties are acting in good faith in their dealings. We all know that we should treat each other with fairness. Unfortunately, we don't always follow through with these principles when we interact with each other on a personal or professional level.

Now, think of at least three people we're grateful to have in our life.

Responses include - I loved the article…  I am convinced that few readers would get past paragraph two…. The attention span has gone down considerably since the advent of social media.  That's why the LIKE button is so popular - it's easy and doesn't require much effort, as taking the time to read and digest a great book.

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By: Oxford Mary and Academic UB

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