Falling is the easy part... https://ted.com/talks/mandy_len_catron_falling_in_love_is_the_easy_part…
Yirong Chen-Soto and Roberto FE Soto made it four years and still going strong. Today is our fourth wedding anniversary and to celebrate with all of you, we want to share the following images.
Our thanks to all who attended our ceremony and to Jack Hopkins and The Breen Brothers for these video clips.
While couples around the world are splitting up in record numbers, Yirong and I are delighted we tied up that proverbial knot. And with our Lord's blessings and your support, we'll live, laugh and love together forever.
We are now Mr. Roberto Soto and Mrs. Yirong Soto and we would appreciate your personal support and respectfully request your advice on keeping our perpetual flame full of realizations, romance, rainbows, and respect.
Planning our wedding was a bit hectic, but your presence was a truly a special present.
We will help one another financially and always be proud of our accomplishments. We will encourage each other and never lie to or cheat on the other. We will be supportive of most decisions, and seek reconsideration for others. We will never disrespect each other and love one another forever.
After being together for nearly a decade, we can honestly say that there was no need for us to rush, you just can't hurry love, everything happens for a reason and we thank God for having each in our lives for being best friends and confidants, for having a loving family and good friends who are here to support us. Our permanent partnership of two brings out the best in each other by being better together as one.
We offer our hearts that will not harden, our tempers that will not tire and touch that will never hurt.
We'll try to be the type of spouse that our partner can’t help but brag about to all friends, family and the entire universe... Coming up is our honeymoon with a whole lot of Love... In our holy union forever and ever AMEN!
The first time I laid eyes on Yirong, she was playing an acoustic string instrument on Broadway and I was utterly astonished; and astounded by her long, dark silky hair, full lips, and what was obviously a perfect body beneath her clothes. Everything seemed right about Yirong.
Until that moment, I’d thought love, at first sight, was simply wishful thinking or pure propaganda. But the feeling struck without warning, courting this fabulous female could turn my life into a lullaby and complete.
Seduction didn’t work, so I took pleasure in verbal jousts, some teasing and laughing. Months of this. Her personality and sense of humor were as wondrous as her looks. We slowly morphed into friends without benefits. Nearly a half year after our encounter, we moved in together were married after a few years. Now my life was indeed perfect, the sex a nonstop wet dream from which I hoped never to wake up.
Yirong and Roberto Soto Preview https://youtu.be/kZCeWV28f5A
Yirong Soto and Roberto Soto Pledge
To never stop courting. Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take each other for granted. When we decided to get married, we promised each other that we would OWN EACH OTHER's HEART and would fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure we will ever be entrusted with. WE CHOSE EACH OTHER and we’ll never forget it, or get lazy with love.
WE’LL PROTECT OUR OWN HEARTS. Just as we’re committed to being the protector of each others heart, we must also guard our own with the same vigilance. We will love ourselves fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in our heart where no one must enter except us. We will keep that space for each other and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.
TO STAY IN LOVE. We will evolve and adjust. We’re not going to be the same people years from now that we are today. A change will come, and in that, we have to re-choose each other every day. WE MUST WORK TO STAY TOGETHER, and if we don’t take care of each other, who else will. We will always try to stay in passionate love just as we did when we were dating.
TO SEE THE BEST in each other. Focus only on what we love about each other. What we focus on will expand. If we focus on what bothers us, all we will see is reasons to be upset. If we focus on what we love, we can’t help but be consumed by love. Focus to the point where we can no longer see anything but love, and we know without a doubt that we’ll be the luckiest spouses on earth because we have the most amazing life partner.
IT’S NOT OUR JOB TO CHANGE OR FIX one another… our job is to love each other with no expectation of changing one another. And when we change, love what we become, whether it’s what you wanted or not.
TO TAKE FULL ACCOUNTABILITY for our own emotions: We are responsible for finding our own happiness, and through that our joy will spill over into our relationship and our love.
TO NEVER BLAME… If we get frustrated or angry, it is only because it is triggering something inside. These are OUR emotions and our responsibility. When we feel those feelings take the time to look within and understand what it is inside that is asking to be healed.
TO SHARE our feelings. When there is sadness or one of us is upset, we will HOLD each other and say it’s going to be OK.
TO LISTEN to each other and show that we’re the most important person to one other and we are the pillars on which the other can always learn. Spirits may change and emotions will roll in and out, but we'll remain strong and non-judging.
WE WON’T RUN-AWAY WHEN one is upset. We will stand present and strong and let the other know we aren’t going anywhere. Listen to what the other is really saying behind the words and emotion.
LET US BOTH ACT SILLY… and never take ourselves so damn seriously. Laugh. And make each other laugh. Laughter makes everything else easier.
WE’LL FILL OUR SOULS EVERYDAY… Learn the language of love and the specific ways each other feels is very important, should be validated and CHERISHED.
We’ll create a list of things that make each other feel loved and memorize those things and make it a priority every day to make one another feel extremely special.
TO BE THERE FOR THE OTHER. Give each other our time, our focus, our attention and our souls. Do what it takes to BE together as ONE.
TO SHARE OUR SEXUALITY; to consume and devour each other with all of our strength, and to penetrate the deepest levels of our beings into softness trusting each other fully.
TO GIVE EACH OTHER SPACE… The good SPOUSE is good at giving and taking and sometimes will need to be reminded to take the time to nurture one another. SOMETIMES there will be a need to fly from our own branches to go and find what feeds the soul, and if we allow that space they will return with new songs to sing…
TO BE VULNERABLE… we don’t have to have it all together. Be willing to share our fears and feelings, and quick to acknowledge our mistakes. Especially those things we don’t want to share. It takes courage to fully love, to fully open our hearts and let the other in when we don't know the other will find... Part of that courage is allowing our partner to love completely, our darkness as well as our light. DROP THE MASK… or we will never experience the full dimension of what love can be.
TO KEEP GROWING TOGETHER… The stagnant pond breeds’ disease, the flowing stream is fresh and cool. Atrophy is the natural process when a muscle stops working, just as it is if we stop working on our relationship.
TO NOT WORRY ABOUT MONEY. Money is a means to find ways to work together as a team and to spend it. It never helps when teammates fight. Let's find ways to leverage both person strength to earn.
TO FORGIVE IMMEDIATELY and focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Don’t let our history hold us hostage. Holding onto past mistakes that either one of us makes, is like a heavy anchor to our marriage and will hold us back. FORGIVENESS IS FREEDOM. Cut the anchor loose and always choose love.
ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. This is the only rule we need. If this is the guiding principle through which all our choices are governed, there is nothing that will threaten the happiness of our marriage. Love endures.
A MARRIAGE isn’t about Happily ever after. It’s about work and a strong commitment to grow closer together and as well as a willingness to continually invest in creating something that can endure for eternity. Through that work, the happiness will follow.
Marriage is a real life that brings ups and downs. Embracing all of the cycles and choosing to learn from and embrace each experience will give us strength and perspective to keep on building each day.
Mr. and Mrs. Soto Wedding Day https://vimeo.com/78030004