Holiday happiness

Submitted by ub on Sat, 10/31/2015 - 15:19

HAPPY HOLIDAYS * As we approach the holiday season, take a moment to appreciate and recognize the fact that without our parents, we wouldn't be who we are... TEAM UP WITH THE BEST, OUR FAMILY.

Try to realize how difficult and hard it is to accomplish something on your own and appreciate the importance and the value in helping our family. This is what we all look for in people. We want someone who can appreciate the help of others, a person who values the hardships required to do important things, and who doesn't put money as an only goal in life.

From the time we are born we're coddled, protected and usually given what we want. This sense of entitlement develops a mentality of " I have the right ' and will always put myself first, ignoring the efforts of protective parents. We can can give our children food, shelter and goodies. But when our parents were washing the floor or painting a wall, did we always experience that also. After eating, did we always offer to wash dishes?.

This is not because we have no money to hire someone to do this it's because we must do the right thing. No matter how rich we are, know that one day our hair will turn gray, like our mother and father's did.

The most important thing is to appreciate and respect their efforts and to experience all the difficulties, to learn the importance of teamwork and be able to improve your ability to work with others to get things done. Amen.

Forget about all the upcoming holiday sales and start giving your time away to all your loved ones.

Make the best of whatever situation. Know this can be difficult if you're not at all interested in doing some of the required holiday activities, but making the best of a situation is only going to help you. When it comes to the holidays, there are things you have to do and making the best of them is only going to make them easier. Try to be extra positive.

Everything and everyone doesn't have to be perfect. We build the holiday season up all year long and suddenly it arrives and doesn't always live up to our ultra-high expectations. This year, lower your expectations to a mellow and reasonable level by reminding yourself that it doesn't have to be perfect. You don't have to be perfect. And, others don't have to be perfect either.

Stay in the moment to avoid unnecessary stress. When you start thinking about the past or the future, that's when you can really get caught up in stress. The holidays should be, at the very least, a day you can focus on the now and stop worrying about the past year or the year to come. Hard as it might be, make a commitment to spend your holidays in the present moment. Focus on the now.

Help others out and ask for help when needed. Help can be a tricky thing. We all need it at times, but too often we don't remember to offer it or ask for it. Try your best to ask others if they need help and ask yourself if you might need help from others. It can be tough to ask for it sometimes, but it will make your holiday a lot happier!

Take it slow... One day, hour, minute at a time. Remember this holiday is only one part of the year and, even when it's tough, you can certainly get through it. If you're faced with troublesome situations, remind yourself that you can get through the next minute, the next hour, the next day. Stress levels may be high, but try to keep everything in perspective and stay cool, calm and collective.

People who put a lot of emphasis on the holidays often have a hard time remembering their worth is much more than a single day or event. The day doesn't have to perfect and neither do you. You are so many things and it's essential to remind yourself that the outcome of one day does not represent your entire worth as a person. Remember: it's just one day.

Though you may not be able to choose exactly how you spend the holidays, you often have a choice when it comes to some situations you put yourself in. If you know a certain person drives you nuts, do what you can to stay away from him or her. And, whenever you can, find the people that inspire you and make you feel great and spend time with those individuals.

With the holidays often comes pressure to say yes. Though I'd certainly advise doing what you can to make the most of any situation you find yourself in, know that it's okay to say "no" when you need to. If something makes you unhappy or uncomfortable, don't do it. Some might call you a Scrooge, but if you want to be happy this holiday, you have to remain true to yourself.

Celebrate the little things (because, really, those are the big things). I'm a big fan of looking at the big picture, but one of the best pieces of advice I can offer you this holiday season is this: celebrate the little things. These are the things that might not seem like a big deal, but they are the things you will end up remembering when the day is over. Pay attention and all of those little things will add up to one big celebration.

Every day -- even the holidays -- we have a choice to experience the world from a positive or a negative point of view. As much as fun and festiveness is part of the holiday season, choosing a positive outlook can be tricky when all of the extra holiday stress is piled on. Give some thought to the suggestions above and see if those will help you make you maximize your happiness this holiday season. And if those don't work for you, think about some of the ways that you can choose a positive attitude this holiday. Just taking some time to think about what could make your holidays happier can have a big impact on your outlook.