Love and marriage are modern society's solutions for the correct combination, with the perfect partner.
As we celebrate our tenth anniversary and grow older, i realize that marriage moves through stages, with one type and then another, etc.
Marriages fall apart because the partners cannot agree on the kind of lives they want to share and because they blame each other for failing to support a specific vision and relationship.
Like Tolstoy’s Anna, people believe they have a right to something better than the current arrangement. Therefore the future is idealized.
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Americans say they marry for love, but the supports for marriage are much more complicated than this.
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Each type of marriage has its opportunities and dangers.
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Work-based marriages stress shared productivity; ritualistic marriages stress identity, order, and duty.
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Playful marriages emphasize adventure and change; communal marriages stress shared experience and bonding
Leo Tolstoy’s classic, Anna Karenina is considered the world’s greatest novel: “All happy families are alike: each unhappy family is unhappy in its way.” That quizzical introduction suggests different interpretations. The most common of these is that every society offers a well-established, relatively standard pattern that produces the most beneficial results for people as individuals and as members of families and their communities.
Adhering to those general principles are ways of trusting, respecting, and supporting one another offering the best prospects for happiness. People who veer from these frameworks by seeking romantic excitement or personal aggrandizement do it at their own risk.
Doomed heroines, like AK, are a staple of that era. Most modern readers admire their attempts to find happiness. We are glad difficulties they faced like restrictions on property ownership, employment, education, political expression, and independence of movement have softened. Who wishes to return to the 1870s, in czarist #Russia? Not me, how about thee?
Give me love 💕 not Chinese, or Cuban-style, but All American. https://www.youtube.com/playli
LOVE & MARRIAGE https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=trht-A4dXZc