The Steps Required beweeen MAD & HUG
My older brother, who is a shrink would certainly agree that there is a right and wrong way of telling someone you are angry at them, or disappointed with their actions. Consider expressing yourself in the following way;
CALM DOWN: Take a walk, rest and allow your emotions to cool. Identify the cause and find a time to chat.
ACKNOWLEDGE THE DIFFICULTY: This is hard for me to say and difficult for you to hear, but....
SAY I, NOT YOU: I feel hurt, or sad. When someone is accused, they often respond by defending themselves.
FIND OUT WHY? Ask for the other person's viewpoint, and pay attention of what they think?