Life is what happens to all of us while we are busy making plans and has a peculiar way of surprising everyone.
Once everything appears to go as expected, then moments later, a change hits us from out of the blue, pink, or otherwise. It is understandable to feel frustrated when faced with difficult situations that life throws at us.
However, by understanding inevitable rules we can develop resilience and adaptive capacities and thrive beautifully.
The only constant in life is change. Sometimes, changes happen voluntarily as we grow and evolve – we may change jobs, homes, interests, or beliefs. Other times, change feels forced upon us suddenly, like an unwelcome guest. Whether voluntary or not, expecting permanence is unrealistic, and being rigid comes at a psychological cost to wellbeing
Failure tends to have strongly negative connotations, and many dread the very prospect of it. However, failure is simply the temporary difference between expected and actual outcomes. Failing causes no lasting harm and is the stepping stone to bridging the gap between current reality and ambitions. In fact, by failing often and fast with small, low-stakes lessons, we accelerate learning before taking the giant leaps. Remember that life is not fair and that nobody is perfect.
Seemingly important titles, positions, and possessions are truly temporary, but the way we treat other human beings, animals, and plants is what really and truly matters. Trying to control everything inevitably leads to frustration and misery. As much as we might wish, many aspects of life cannot be bent fully to our will due to their inherent randomness or others’ free agency. The illusion of total control stems from the ego’s fantasy rather than reality’s feasibility. Events unfold based on complex systemic interactions between choice, chance, and destiny.
Some folks postpone living fully while fantasizing about the magical day when all dreams will somehow come true together. Meanwhile, turning points fade, people pass on, and potential slowly extinguishes – until one day, time itself runs out. Even our next breath isn’t guaranteed, as the river of time flows regardless of plans.
Lastly Lasting happiness or suffering originates not in external events but in one’s internal processes. No person or situation itself creates sadness or joy – instead, it emerges from how stimuli get mentally interpreted and translated into personalized meanings. Taking charge of these translations puts us in the driver’s seat of our emotional states. The paramount power still rests with us. Everyone can reflect, choose attitudes, determine responses, and assign meaning. This personal power of conscious reaction makes us all self-made individuals by our own hands. WE ARE IN CONTROL... And so it goes.