On this date, three years ago today, and after a very long courtship, which took us to Florida and Shanghai to meet each other's family, we were finally wed. Mr. and Mrs. R/Y Soto are still falling in love.
Communication is a good test for long-lasting relationships and we are offering the following 3-hour long examination, which is in three stages, with loving breaks in between, if you know what we mean. Ready?
I:
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would we want as a guest?
2. Would we like to be famous? In what way?
3. Before making a telephone call, do we ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for us?
5. When did we last sing to ourselves? To someone else?
6. If we could live to the age of 99 with the body or mind of a 39 y/o which do we want?
7. Do we have an idea or hunch about how we will die?
8. Name three things we have in common.
9. For what in our lives do we feel most grateful?
10. If we could change anything about the way we were raised, what would it be?
11. Take few minutes and tell our life story in as much detail as possible.
12. If we could gain any one quality or ability, what would it be?
<3 BREAK <3
II:
13. If a crystal ball could tell the truth about ourselves, our future lives, what would we want to know?
14. A bucket list of three things we’ve wanted to do for a long time? Why not now?
15. What is the greatest accomplishment of our life?
16. What do we value most in a friendship?
17. What is our most treasured memory?
18. What is our most terrible memory?
19. If we knew that in one year we would die what would we change? Why?
20. What does friendship mean to us?
21. What roles do love and affection play in our life?
22. Share something considered a positive characteristic. Share a total of three items.
23. How close and warm is our family? Do we feel we had a happy childhood?
24. How do we feel about our relationships with our mothers?
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III:
25. Make 3 true statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling...
26. Complete this sentence: “we like having someone with whom we can share … “
27. Please share what would be important for each to know.
28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest, saying everything.
29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
31. Say 3 things that you do not like about your partner.
32. What is too serious to be joked about?
33. What do you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
34. Our house, containing everything we own, catches fire. What would you save? Why?
35. Of all the people in our family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how to handle it, then reflect on how you are feeling about the problem you've chosen.
OK - STOP... Time is up!
Please, feel free to include up to three additional questions which may have been left out.
Congratulations, and thanks for sharing!